It is now time, more than ever before to! FOCUS on what you like about your life. Think about what you would like increased in your life. Don’t focus on the negativity of the past or on what you don’t have. Think of what you enjoy and what you desire. Be thankful for what you have now, even though you may feel like you don’t have enough love, money, time, etc. Be grateful for what you do have and see yourself as having more.

If you want more love, be more loving. If you want more time, be more relaxed and enjoy the time you have. If you want more money, enjoy the money you have and always trust that you will have more than enough to meet your needs.

The past can be a source of entertainment. It can also show us certain recurrent patterns in ourselves. The important thing to focus on is what am I doing with my life NOW? How can this knowledge of the past (whether past lives or childhood) help me be a better person and live a happier and more fulfilled life NOW?

Part 1 of 5

Personal responsibility is the freedom to create our own lives

Part 1 of 5…… Personal Responsibility & Freedom

Part 2 of 5….. Personal Responsibility and Boundaries

Part3 of 5…… Personal Responsibility and the Law of Attraction

Part 4 of 5….. Personal Responsibility and Blame

Part 5 0f 5….. Personal Responsibility in Listening & Honesty

When we take responsibility, we admit we are the ones responsible for the choices we make. We attract to ourselves an experience, which we make a choice about. It is all about staying committed to our choices, and staying flexible to our approach and outcomes

Let’s get personal and talk about you for a moment. Are you perfectly happy with the way things are at this time, or do you wish things were better? Chances are you are neither perfectly happy nor completely unhappy, for most of us lie somewhere between both extremes. However, if you’re not totally satisfied, what are you doing about it? If you continue to do the same things, everything will remain the same. Nothing will change until you do.

It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibility. No body ever did, or ever will escape the consequences of their choices – this is called learning, and an opportunity to raise our vibration empowers us, when we acknowledge the learning behind the lesson

When we take responsibility, we admit we are the ones responsible for the choices we make. We, not other people or events, are responsible for the way we think and feel. It is our life, and we are in charge of it. We are free to enjoy it or disdain it. No, we are not responsible for all that happens to us, but we are responsible for how we think, feel, and act when the consequences of our choice are presented to us.

We all must learn to take personal responsibility – in most cases we cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but we can change ourselves and more importantly change the habitual thinking associated with the way we live our lives

If you believe that things or people make you unhappy, you are looking outside of yourself, for someone or something to blame. If you are unhappy, you make yourself unhappy – your unhappiness is a choice that you make for yourself, it comes from within you and what you are seeing from the outside is a mirror – an opportunity to “Tap” into the emotion that has presenting itself to be healed

One of the first ‘people’ we greet each morning is our reflection in the mirror. Don’t we want to be accountable, answerable, and responsible for the life we are creating for it? By accepting that responsibility, we unleash great power and transform ourselves. It may be convenient for a caterpillar to have so many legs, but it remains earthbound. It is far better to make a dramatic change and transform ourselves like a butterfly, so we can take flight and explore a new world.

Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, and opportunities to give back, by  embracing a journey of learning and growth, and by taking responsibility for our own personal freedom

These are my thoughts please feel free to add your thoughts below

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Personal Responsibility and Boundaries

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Setting Personal Boundaries – protecting self

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Setting Personal Boundaries – protecting self

The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us. A first step is starting to know that we have a right to protect and defend ourselves.

We have not only the right, but the
duty to take responsibility for how
we allow others to treat us.

It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, with someone who cannot communicate directly, and honestly. Learning how to set boundaries is a necessary step in learning to be a friend to ourselves. It is our responsibility to take care of ourselves – to protect ourselves when it is necessary.

Boundaries are about the emotional and physical space that we place between ourselves and others. Setting proper boundaries is important to our mental and emotional health. When appropriate boundaries are not set, we run the risk of becoming either too detached from or too dependent upon others.

It is impossible to learn to be loving to ourselves without owning our self – and owning our rights and responsibilities as co-creators of our lives. If we want to be loved, we need to be loving toward self and toward others. Once we start having a more loving relationship with ourselves, everything changes.

Setting boundaries is not a more sophisticated way of manipulation – although some people will say they are setting boundaries, when in fact they are attempting to manipulate. The difference between setting a boundary in a healthy way and manipulating is: when we set a boundary we let go of the outcome.
Maybe this is a good opportunity for me to explain boundaries versus manipulation, so I will do it in a personal way so that you can understand it clearly.
I, (for whatever reasons) decided that I wanted to set a boundary around my evening meal, so then my husband had a choice to make. Other scenarios could have been:
1.    Dinner will be at 6pm  (my boundary)
2.    Dinner will be at 6pm and if you are not here, it will go in the bin (manipulation)
3.    Dinner will be on the table at 6pm because you (blaming)
We ultimately discussed the problem and came up with a win/win solution

In order for new healthy boundaries to become our new reality,

1. We need to accept and take responsibility, to change what we can change
2. We need to take responsibility for our behaviors and emotions.
3. We need to let go of blaming others
4. We need to go within and allow the healing to begin

Emotions do not define us, they are a form of internal communication that help us to understand ourselves, and are a vital part of our being – as a component of the whole. Owning the feeling gives us the opportunity of choice and change, and allows us to get in touch with the source of these feelings. By stating the feeling out loud, not only are we affirming that we have a right to feelings – we are affirming that the feeling exists within ourselves, allowing us to take responsibility for owning self, our reality, our choices and our responsibilities in our journey of learning and growth

It is vitally important

1. To own your own voice
2. To own your right to speak up for yourself.

It is OK to say NO

Changing our relationship with ourselves is
vital to making any long term changes
in our relationships with others.

These are my thoughts please feel free to add your thoughts below

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Personal Responsibility and the Law of Attraction

Part 3 of 5

Part 3 of 5

The Key to Mastering the Law of Attraction is Responsibility.

The ultimate responsibility for how your life turns out rests with you and you alone… not with your parents, your boss, your ex, your society, God, or anyone else.  You can blame whomever you wish, but you’re the one who must experience (or endure) the results.

The Law of Attraction brings you what you think about.  To think is to ask.  Every thought is an intention.  The Law of Attraction is totally neutral — it doesn’t filter what you ask for.  If you think about what you want, you get it.  If you think about what you don’t want, you get that too.

The key to mastering the Law of Attraction is responsibility.  You must accept personal responsibility for everything in your life.  And I do mean everything.  If you perceive it, you’ve manifested it.  Whatever you give your attention to will expand.

By assuming responsibility for creating my reality, I also assume the power to change it.  I can consciously put more energy into thinking about what I do want.  Some of those negative thoughts will still pop into my mind, but I can drown them out with positive alternatives

If you’re determined to think about what you don’t want, I certainly can’t stop you.  The best I can do is to hold you accountable for your results, which can help you become more aware of what you’re doing to yourself. Only you can save you.

At one stage of my life the skeptical part of my brain had trouble believing reality could actually work like this.  It requires a new model of reality in which the Law of Attraction makes sense.  Consequently, I’ve had to make major adjustments to my beliefs to compensate for the Law of Attraction.  This led me towards a more subjective view of reality, which eventually became my default way of thinking.

What if I deny responsibility for what I experience?  What if I say, “Something or someone out there is causing these problems”, it is then, I’m powerless to change my reality.  If I focus my thoughts on what I’m already getting, I’ll unknowingly activate the Law of Attraction to continue bringing me more of the same.

One of the reasons I’m so happy and passionate about my life is that I’m getting better at aligning myself with the Law of Attraction.  As I think about what I want, I keep wondering when it’s going to show up.  When I try to control how it comes to me, I usually block it.  But when I relax and allow it to happen, that’s when it finally begins showing up.  The right people, resources, and opportunities somehow find me, usually through unexpected synchronicities.

By assuming responsibility for creating my reality, I also assume the power to change it.  I can consciously put more energy into thinking about what I do want. Some of those negative thoughts will still pop into my mind, every now and then, but I can drown them out with positive alternatives.

The Law of Attraction works 24/7 in all areas of our lives

The key to mastering the Law of Attraction is responsibility

for our thoughts, feelings and actions.

These are my thoughts please feel free to add your thoughts below

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Personal Responsibility and Blame

What is right for one Soul
May not be right for another
It may mean having to stand
On your own and do something
Strange in the eyes of others.
But do not be daunted.
Do whatever it is because
You know within, it is
Right for you …

Eileen Caddy

When you look at the title “I am the choices I make”- you may have the feeling that you never, ever have choice, and in fact you never did have choice, so why read on?

To read on, could ultimately be the most powerful choice that you have ever followed in your whole life, and could be the most important growth decision that you ever make. It is of course a choice that only you can make.

Studies show that about 90% of what is going on in your mind is controlled by your subconscious and yet, you are unaware of it. It controls bodily functions like digestion, heartbeat, breathing, and even eye movements. It stores memory and has every detail of every experience you have ever had.
Think of your subconscious mind as a very powerful computer with a huge storage capacity. Every event and every detail is being stored in this “super computer” and when you want to recall a particular event, your mind sends a message to your subconscious and then these “files” are opened and processed by the conscious mind.

No matter what it is you wish to manifest in your life, there are four basic causes in this universe — thoughts, choice, words, and actions. Everything in existence was at one time an idea that we made a choice about.
In the instances that you think you have forgotten some events, it only means there was some confusion on the signals being sent, but as far as the subconscious is concerned, no single memory or detail is ever forgotten. Everything is there, stored for keeps.

The power of the unconscious mind rules – it is, in fact 30.000 times more powerful than the conscious mind and has no power to reason – that is, what you add (or allow) into your unconscious mind becomes your reality. It is what we access when we want data re-enforcement – the information that is stored in our unconscious mind, is the same information from which we act and react, until we, as individuals make the choice to totally understand “If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got and you will always feel what you have always felt

My life changed when I realized (once and for all) that I did have choice and that I could be master of my own destiny and create a life, for me, that would fill my whole being with love instead of fear, and abundance as apposed to financially insecurity. I focused on meeting my own needs as an independent, confident and worthy person by letting go of the dependency on others to meet my needs. I learned that it was OK to say no and follow my own pathway, by forgiving myself and all others and most importantly I learned that my mind was more powerful than any habit, and that the opinion of others could not sway my dedication to my growth, my journey and my life

For me, real changes occurred as I ultimately made the choice to learn from my past experiences and just let them go, and as a result of letting go, glorious evolvement came from taking small, but decisive, steps towards a whole life transition, environmentally and spiritually to becoming a compassionate, loving, human being.

I decided to become co-creator of my own mind by changing the messages that where in my unconscious mind from negative to positive. Over time, I changed, and my whole world/perceptions changed with me.
I was searching for love, and looking for it on the outside (ie outside of myself) and that did not work for me, so it came to me, as a realization, that there was only one answer, and that was “if you want love you, have to give love”

It was my choice to became the creator of my mind, so I planted seeds of self love into my unconscious mind, I nurtured those seeds until my new reality blossomed from within and I attracted to myself amazing opportunities that sky rocketed my life from a position of victim to victory

Every day we are bombarded with choices that are mirrored to us by others, so it is now time to empower your life by planting seed of success, abundance, health, motivation, creativity, self belief, confidence and most importantly self acceptance and respect of self and others.

Choose to nurture those seeds and they will bear fruit for you and change will happen in all areas of your life. Tap into your true potential and live the life you where born to live

It is your life and your choice

A happy and passionate life can be achieved if we transform limiting beliefs and listen to the voice of wisdom within our soul. The bread of life is such that if we are at one with nature we can nourish the spirits of all we cherish with insight and joy. Celebrate your passion, live together peacefully and imagine the unimaginable, do this and yours will be an existence overflowing with peace and love.

Micheal Teal

Self-sabotage is something we do to ourselves when we feel we don’t deserve good things to happen to or for us. There is no logical explanation for why we don’t or won’t allow such things to happen. This is not for lack of desire for good things, rather, it’s like a tug of war we play with ourselves inside between us wanting something good and not feeling worthy of it.
Frequently using the word should is an excellent indication that one may be experiencing self sabotaging behaviors.

Self sabotage can become so serious that it limits or completely destroys one’s ability, or desire, to live a happy and fulfilling life – making it impossible to live the life we where born to live.

Unfortunately, circumstances in life can severely alter our self-image to the point where we feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of unhappiness and lack of self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence
There are many ways in which we experience symptoms of self sabotage – and most of it comes from how we where programmed, so it is an unconscious reaction to a conscious desire

We show such symptoms as

• Procrastination
• Destroying good or working relationships
• Dissatisfaction with home life, career, relationships and life in general
• Inability to control anger
• Seeking out or staying in abusive relationships
• Always putting self down, self doubt, belittlement of self
• Trust issues
• Depression
• Inability to finish what is started
• Always having to have a “crisis” in life to feel purpose, or needing
• drama to feel fulfilled
• Addictive behavior- broad spectrum, including the absolute need to be
• right
• What do others think of me? or how do others see me?
• Weight loss with equal or more gain afterwards
• Worrying excessively
• Jeopardizing what is already good or working in life such as
• relationships, jobs, etc.

How to change:

First and foremost, one needs to be completely and sincerely honest with their self. To be dishonest is all about pretending and blaming others and is the most common form of self – sabotaging. We cannot, and will not address our issues, if we continually run away and hide from what is holding us back

The Law of attraction states that like attracts like. Events, circumstances, and people are attracted to other people, events, and circumstances that are of like frequency of vibration. Thinking and feeling positive thoughts attract positive situations. Conversely, negative thoughts and feelings attract more of the same

How much are you willing to do to work on yourself?

What are your goals?

What do you want for yourself?

Find out what you want, name your goals, make a plan to achieve those goals and then work hard to stick to those goals.

Healing begins with the knowledge and wisdom that our minds were programmed when we where under 5 years of age by repetition, and were re-enforced time and time again. This became our truth, on how we where to act and react. Now we know we have choice, healing affirmations, again constantly repeated, will change the way we think about ourselves and allow us to become co-creators of our own minds

Do you know why you are sabotaging?

Become co-creator of your own mind by using healing affirmations daily with your honest commitment to becoming your authentic self.

The truth really does set us free from what is holding us back, and what usually holds us back is ourselves.

At this time of uncertainty there is just so much over whelming fear manifesting in the hearts of humanity. All the ancient calendars and prophecies of diverse ancient traditions are pointing to these days as a time of great awakening and a time of great shift. In these early days of this centaury, humanity – that is you and I, are being challenged to make a choice: the choice between the path of love, community .and peace over the path of fear, revolution and survival.

When we walk the path of love and harmony we draw love and harmony to our lives. When we walk the path of fear, we attract drama, revolution, conspiracy and survival issues to us. The creative force of the Universe is impersonal and non judgmental and will give us just what we want, expect and most of all fear. What we hold in our hearts is what the universe will supply! The universe adds support to the realities that we have put into action in our minds, and by our actions, Spirit moves when we do. This is why in these days, we are challenged to live in perfect impeccability and in the highest truth possible.

1. We must deeply consider what we are holding true in our hearts.
2. What is our main focus and intent?
3. What are we preparing for?
4. What do we believe in and what do we most fear?

The answers to these questions will also be our answers to the new reality we are choosing to create for ourselves. If we don’t like the answers, this is the time to challenge our minds. We are entering a doorway,or planting seeds, through which what will manifest will be in direct proportion to what we hold in our hearts. If your dream is to live in harmony and peaceful community, you have the opportunity to apply those dreams. If you are a survivalist, you will need the food and tools you have stored and all those survival skills. If you believe in the computer – bug hysteria, you’ll create that drama. Focusing your time and energy on negative, dramatic, conspiracy- based, and survival issues will waste precious time and energy. It will anchor you deeper in the dream/hologram of fear and you’ll risk experiencing Armageddon scenarios. Fear also freezes your connection to Spirit and, thus your protection, or intuition is blocked

Walking and living the path of love is not about putting our heads in the sand and going into denial over the problems in the World. Denial is fear not love. The problems of the World are real ones that need addressing in any way we are capable. The path of love is about seeing the problems, and acting from love, compassion and non-judgment, NOT from survival or fear.

Remember, it is not WHAT we do as much as WHY we are doing it. Walking the path of love is about adding our energy to the light. It is a waste of energy to fight the darkness

You never change anything by fighting the existing.

To change something, build a new model and make the existing obsolete”

This wisdom from Buckminster Fuller is the very reason I have dedicated so much time, energy and research to the affirmation series that I have produced which can be purchased at this site

These are my thoughts, please have your say.

I wonder how many people believe that whatever happens in their lives is predestined, or fate. I’m among those who believe that we pilot our own ship. I believe my life is governed by the choices I make. For me, this hasn’t always been the case. So what’s the difference?
When I chose to become accountable for my actions and my reactions to all the endless possibilities of thought and action, my life changed. I learned that there was no such thing as a mistake – just another choice I could make. I began to open doors and accept total responsibility for my own growth. I welcomed the chance to understand why I attracted my life’s lessons to myself.

I believe that my power comes from a combination of the opportunities that I have attracted to myself, and the power of the choices I have made when confronted with life’s opportunities and challenges. I believe that I am here, on this planet at this time, to learn – and that each one of us chooses what we are to learn. We attract to us the people, the opportunities and the events that can facilitate that learning.

In my lifetime of learning, I have had many powerful learning experiences. Through these experiences I have gained wisdom that I can tap into, when called upon, to raise my vibration or support others. I have embraced the adult part of my journey, determined to heal the wrongs of my upbringing – real or perceived, and become an authent, joyous person. I’ve become a person who can inspire others to challenge their being, their values, their beliefs and their responsibility to learn from all their available opportunities. Now I can share my journey and shine a light that helps others to take the learning and let go of the past.

Whether to believe that fate plays a hand at an unconscious level or to believe that opportunity only goes to the more privileged, is in itself a choice that I choose to embrace in my life. I am neither inferior nor superior to anyone on this planet. The privileges that I have in life come to me because of the positive way I think about manifesting all opportunities – no ifs’ or buts’, no blaming anyone else, no pretending, no fantasizing or judgment. Just seeing the opportunity as just that – another opportunity to welcome into my learning.

As children, we have no filter separating our conscious and our unconscious mind. Every action and reaction we experience, everything we hear, and every reinforcement of any behavior becomes a child’s reality. For children, it will remain that way until parents learn the power of choice and teach our children, by example, that there are always consequences for every action and every reaction. Children who learn by taking responsibility and by becoming accountable, in a positive way, become our future leaders and lead others in powerfully positive ways.

It is my belief that I chose my life’s pathway and I chose the people who would be my teachers on this pathway of learning. By incorporating a positive attitude to my beliefs, and letting go of the thoughts that no longer served me well, I was able to add another dimension to my life, allowing endless possibilities to be my reality. I now attract to me only positive reinforcement that my happiness is my choice and perhaps my destiny. To reach this pathway, I had to be totally proactive in making the choice initially to retrain my mind, in order to fulfill that destiny.

I have recently finished studying a book by Norman Doidge called “The Brain that Heals Itself”. This provided an amazing insight into research that has been going on since the mid eighteenth century. It discusses the possibility that our thoughts can change the way our brain functions. “An astonishing new scientific discovery called neuroplasticity is overthrowing the centuries-old notions that the adult human brain is fixed and unchanging. It is, instead, able to change its own structure and function, even into old age”. The notion that our brain is hard-wired like a machine is slowly being proven to be incorrect and now modern-day science is more in tune with the ”use it or lose it theory”.

I have been working with my Affirmation Series for many years now, embracing the notion that the power of positive affirmations will over-ride the negative thoughts and beliefs that I took on during my child hood. The wonderful truth is that by doing so, I have created an opportunity for me to truly live the life I was born to live. But then perhaps you will say that was my destiny

The uniqueness of each of us, travelling towards the light, depends on the choices we make and how we feel emotionally, and what we learn from those choices.

Do you feel that you do not have choice and thus you feel that your destiny/fate is already firmly fixed?

Do you feel that you have a destiny and accept that you do not have any input into it?

When we give out love, compassion, trust and respect by smiling or kind words, that comes from within, and that is what comes back to us multiplied. The same principle applies when we give out fear, anger and resentment – it also comes back multiplied.

My view is that my destiny must incorporate the choices I make about how I vibrate energetically out into my world. My destiny is to be a healer, and so it is my choice to experience opportunities as they come to me as opportunities to gain authenticity – that is to be totally aligned body, mind and spirit.

I already knew that I totally vibrated in healing energy even when I was a young child, so I chose a profession that allowed me to learn and experience opportunities at an amazing level in the medical world. I was a trained Nurse. When the passion for that career choice diminished I made another choice …. to pick up books again and become a healer who uses natural medicine as my tool. I am continually open to using more advanced techniques in all fields and have dedicated my life to be open to all opportunities for a much more spiritual awakening in all those who are seeking support in their lives.

While your character is formed by your circumstances, your choices can do much to shape those circumstances. What is enabling in the doctrine of free will is the conviction that you have the power over the formation of your own character.
Nature is at work around you – choices and destiny are her handiwork; she gives you love and hate, jealousy and reverence so that you can use the power to choose which impulses you will follow.

You can at any time decide to alter the course of your life – no one can take that away from you. You are the master of your joys and your sorrows. The greatest power you possess is the power to choose.

I want to choose the details of my life, and fortunately, I have come to appreciate how important it is to allow others freedom to choose their own paths. None of us wants to be robbed of our ability to choose for ourselves. After all, we cannot know what is best for anyone but ourselves. So why would I give unsolicited advice to others and expect them to follow it?

Success is getting what YOU want and happiness is wanting what you get. Life is not about how much you have, it’s about how much you enjoy what you have manifested into your life and how much you appreciate and are grateful for it.

Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give.

You are the master of your destiny and you are captain of your soul.